Candy starts a forum. People like this forum. Lots of people join it, and they chat about things and pretty much have a good time. All of Candy's old online friends seem to have been waiting in the wings for a blissful reunion.
And it is, actually, one of the few of Candy's online communities that hasn't been riddled with active trolls. Sure, trolls might be there to observe *cough* but they're silent, since they know they will be kicked out anyway. Who knows, if they stayed there to observe long enough, maybe they'd even be won over to participating in good faith?
But something happens: a messy kitchen, a re-emerging internet addiction, or perhaps, just perhaps, an old anti-Candy site rising like a Phoenix from the ashes, causing our fair heroine a moment of sheer, blind panic. The site is yanked. Then partially restored.
People wonder what happened, naturally. Even Candy's supporters show some frustration and disappointment with the flightiness of it all.
The following is a dialogue preserved from the wreckage.
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Can someone explain to me what is going on? I got an email explaining a dirty kitchen and closing the community and then another one saying her husband said to leave it up but give it to someone else???????
Is this for real?
I can't believe I got sucked into her drama again. For Pete's sake, you don't even have to finish a project just stick with one for more than a couple of weeks. The excuses are endless.
Did someone let the Candy archives out of the bag? Is that what is going on here?
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March 12, 2011 at 7:23 AM
What is going on with the board?
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March 12, 2011 at 7:39 AM
I am wondering the same thing! Why does someone have to ruin a good thing?
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March 12, 2011 at 7:58 AM
I got three emails. One wanting to know if I wanted to be site admin. One telling me the site was closed and one telling me that the site was back open . What is going on? And were they really from Candy? Or were they from someone else?
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March 12, 2011 at 8:09 AM
No doubt they were from Candy/Rebecca/whoever on Saturday. This is not the first time something like this has happened.
It bothers me when she brings others (groups of like minded women) into her unstable "projects" and then drops them like hot potatoes.
Sorry, I've just about had it and need to vent I guess.
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March 12, 2011 at 8:12 AM
I received the same emails, so I logged on here wondering if I had been a moderator this whole time, lol. No. In all probability this forum has just become like FB is to most people for Candy.
I got sucked into myspace when it first came out to the detriment of my housekeeping, mothering, etc. The first & simplest solution was for me to close my account after months of idleness. As administrator Candy can't just close the account w/out deleting the whole forum...which I feel would be unfair & I'm sure she & her husband have decided the same so she's offering an opportunity to keep it open through delegation or instruction for a new meeting place. Both viable, fair options.
I think this is our fault as an online fellowship. You can't see that someone had over 2 or 300 replies & not know that they must be neglecting their God given tasks & none of us would rebuke or offerJethro's advice as to Moses; "this people be too numerous for ye."
& withal they learn to be idle,wandering about from house to house...I will therefore that the younger women...guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully. I Tim 5: 13,14, all butchered up & cobbled together.
This has been my favorite "house" to visit these last few weeks & more than once I've looked up & realized supper wasn't thawed, the baby was down to 1 stack of diapers & needed a wash now, etc. Show some mercy.
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March 12, 2011 at 8:31 AM
The odd thing that concerns me of hacking is it said I was a moderator. I am not. I have no qualms helping on the board at all. The email stating an incorrect infomation abou my account seemed worrisome.
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March 12, 2011 at 8:43 AM
I can see that [redacted] but Candy is very scheduled and dedicated to her family. My thought would be that she would just schedule some computer tim. I guess I will wait to respond to the email until I really know it's Candy and not a hacker.
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March 12, 2011 at 8:46 AM
I came here too after reading the e-mails. I don't think there's necessarily any drama going on here. It started off small and cozy and now, how many members do we have? People are posting in the blog area, on the forum, posting videos, etc. The more we post the more there is for Candy to read.
I just wanted to make sure that the e-mails were legit and not spam. While I don' thave a lot of time on my hands either, I would be willing to moderate a "room" here if it would help keep things open.
Perhaps instead of turning it over to us, she could remain site admin but assign each volunteer a "room" to monitor. Then only report to her anything that concerns us or doesn't meet whatever guidelines she has for the site.
I can certainly understand the ability to get sucked in here and let other things slide.
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March 12, 2011 at 8:47 AM
I joined a couple of weeks ago but didn't make any comments or share because I had a gut feeling this would not last long. I was duped, but this time I atleast knew I was going to be duped.
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March 12, 2011 at 9:09 AM
So, did she send out the mail to all members asking for admins? Seems to me that Candy made a rash decision, then realized maybe that isn't what she wanted. She's done this before with a Yahoo group, too. Candy, there are ways of dealing with a forum and your home. I work, moderate a forum, and keep my home... If you want to chat, let me know. Well, I will keep my eyes open and see what's going on.
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March 12, 2011 at 9:43 AM
So who is in charge?
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March 12, 2011 at 10:02 AM
Right now, [redacted] & I are the admins. Candy may be adding more. I don't plan to make any big changes or anything, just keep the site up and keep an eye out for spam or trolling (not that either have been a problem).
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March 12, 2011 at 10:46 AM
I don't think there is any "drama" going on. I think it is commendable when someone can see their limits and know to take a step back. I also thik it is pretty obvious that Candy is very devoted to her family and household, and I see no reason to be upset. She and her husband decided to keep the forums open, but delegate, she is still the site owner, she just got site admins to keep the forums up.
I think we can stop being so rude...I am personally happy that this community of women is able to stay intact....we can still have fellowship, and share ideas, ect. It's not a big deal. smile
Don't worry, be happy now...
Oh, [redacted] you beat me, lol, slow connection right now, I guess.
Ad I, also, don't plan on making any big changes to the site. Just happy to be a part of keeping it here.
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March 12, 2011 at 10:57 AM
Ok I am just glad that it is still up and running.
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March 12, 2011 at 11:08 AM
Candy
Site Owner
Posts: 305
Hey everybody, I'm still around, I just don't have the time anymore to handle all of this. I wasn't expecing the member's area to get so big, LOL. I was thinking there'd be like 10 people, who would chat from time to time.
I think it's neat that you all are enjoying this, but PLEASE, don't turn this site into a bash Candy site. I'm doing the best I can. sadface
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They grumble, and are subsequently soothed. It looks like everyone may be able to take a deep breath, move past the disappointment and confusion, and seem to carry on...
...and then she yanks the forum AGAIN.
In what, more perfect way could someone turn former friends into doubters? Silent trolls into vocal ones?
I have come to a realization: Candy is her own troll.
Why else would she purposely work to alienate her own supporters?
The entire Conundrum of Candy MUST be performance art, and we are all pawns in her game.
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Edited to add: the latest update from Candy explains that the latest...yanking...is actually not of her doing.
March 12, 2011 1:19pm
Okay, a LOT has been happening, LOL. I took down the site, then my husband reminded me that there are a lot of ladies there who would still like to fellowship with each other. So, I felt bad, and brought the site back up.
Then, I sent out an email that was supposed to go only my moderators, inviting them to become admins, but I guess I hit the wrong button, because the email went out to everyone.
THEN (oh yes, there's more lol) there was some illegal phishing site that came up on webs, which caused member pages to be blocked by many ISP, like it was last month. So... now even though the member's site is back up, a lot of members can't get in, because their ISP is blocking it. Strangely, I wasn't able to get in about two days ago, even though many others could. I sent an email about that, asking people to let me know if they couldn't get in. I was only able to get in if I logged in as the site owner, and even then, it was wiggy, and I couldn't access everything.
Now I can access it again just fine, but have been getting a lot of emails from people who can't get in.
-Candy
Untimely coincidence! If it's true, then- no wait, what am I saying?
LIES!
The forum does appear to be back up. However, some of the above posts have now been deleted.
the forum has moved, but i think its the same forum. if you look at the old one, all of candy's posts are singed off as rain, but 'rain" said she couldn't take control of the sight, even though it says site owner underneath now. another thing is candy is not a member at the new sight, which makes me think she is the owner- there's only one other moderator now too.
ReplyDeletei think she realized she could trick people into thinking shes not running the site and get people to flock to it and praise her while not taking responsibility for the screw ups. im waiting to see how long before she changes her name back, but i asked a few questions so i might get banned first. she needs to realize there are real people shes screwing around with.
what forum are you all talking about?
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